I was just generally roaming around looking for WisCon posts and found this, hope it's cool for me to comment-drop. I wasn't at that panel, but that comment would have disturbed me, too. If it was that there were sexual/romantic scenes with f/m as well as f/f then it's a fair point, but if it was just that it was f/f between women who were not exclusively gay, then what could the problem be? Maybe as a bi/pansexual person I'm just not seeing it.

Love to see your panel suggestion! :)